So Yup. I went clubbing… And not just attending a DJ event or a concert but clubbing as in going to a regular club, and lining up outside with other clubgoers while they were smoking and drinking.
So it started out as one of my married friends said “let’s do a girls night out!” and so another married friend joined and we decided on… Well, what else? Clubbing, of course!
At the end, the night was memorable but not in the best sense. We all went through the party scene when we were 20 something but as married 30+ it was a different story.
There were a lot of recurring memories and events that emerged from the past but we were simply not ready for what was bound to happen. We were stunned like a deer before it got stuck. (ugh… I don’t like that example… I get sad when I see road kills)
Anyways even though you may be younger or older than 30+ hopefully this can be a guide to all of you guys before heading out for the night. Hopefully, it can save you money (I am all for that), time and stress.
Me and my friend clubbing (gasp!!)
- How to Avoid Line-Ups
a) Plan your destination
This may sound basic for some of you folks, but we had no plan! We just decided on a club while driving and heading out to downtown. The first couple of clubs we picked (got the information on the internet ><) were closed down or not a night we wanted to attend, so we asked around and received recommendations and so we went.
If we had picked a club to go to, in the beginning, we could have contacted the club earlier in the week to get on the guest list and save time on lining up and maybe perhaps the cover fee.
b) Use your or friends’ connections
We didn’t want to resort to this but especially in the colder months, we would try to see if we have any connections with the promoters or know who knows one so we can get in the club with little to no lineups.
c) Or be a keener and head to the club early to avoid long lineups!
If the club opens at 8pm, get there around 8pm to avoid line ups! You will still listen to some great music, get drinks, dance a bit and maybe call it a night!
- How to save money on drinks
This is kind of an obvious thing, but yes pre-drink or pre-game before you head to the club. Obviously, do not get so drunk that you stumble everywhere and puke before you head in (we kinda broke that rule ourselves but one of our friends was lightweight in drinking!). I remember back in my 20’s, we used to pre-drink at friends’ homes or even in cars! I remember I used to carry a bottle of drink in the back of the trunk in case someone wanted a drink.
Now, we might still pre-drink at friend’s home or drink at a bar or restaurants, but do remember! Drinks at bars and restaurants might be as expensive as in clubs so do calculate your costs as you go.
b) Research for drinks’ specials for that night
Check out what the drinks’ specials are when searching for the club(that is if you already picked a place!) so when you are ordering at the bar you know what to order. Also, ask for the price before you order! When I went to the club that night, I didn’t ask for the price and the drink turned out to be 20 dollars a shot! I think I got ripped but the drinks were already poured and I did not want to make a scene and get kicked out so I coughed up the dough. It woke me right after that.
C) Just don’t drink!
Save money and your health by not drinking and just getting thumpin with the music!! If you absolutely need drinks, read the options above but just don’t seduce and tempt guys to get a drink. You are independant woman and who knows what’s inside the drinks? Get drinks for you and your friends and they can get the next round and so on.
- Comfort is everything
When I was in my 20s comfort was the last thing on my mind. I just had to look hot or sexy and that was it. Oh and also cheap. I remember I would wear a short dress with no jacket in winter because I wanted to save money on coat check.
I would wear heels like no other and would rather bring band-aids with me to cover up my wounds because I would rather have sexy legs than worry about the pain and blisters that would incur later.
Now, comfort is everything! I am not at that stage where I would forego style over comfort but it’s getting close. I would rather wear comfortable, somewhat stylish shoes rather than sexy heels. I know my feet, and legs and let’s face it, my whole body would thank me as soon I walk into the club.
Showing off my B&B (accidentally) and B&B stands for Boobs and Butt and vice versa is not what I want to show off due to tripping over because of some gnarly shoes.
Wear something you would feel comfortable in for your whole body, from head to toe and they will all thank you.
- Avoid unnecessary conflicts
Back in the days, if someone bumps or elbows into you (on purpose) and you just want to smash them into pieces and you actually do it?
Well, think twice before you do that especially at this age. I am guessing you might have a job and maybe a family and some sort of a reputation (if you are in a gang, this might not apply to you or maybe it does) you would not want to risk all of that just from that one night, one person.
People are drunk and it is crowded with people, so give them the benefit of the doubt. If you are near people who are too rowdy, just walk away. Sometimes, it is just not worth it.
That night, I had this girl dancing near us flailing her hair and she was getting closer to us and we “gently” nudged her away but she came in full force shaking her hair like no other and so we just walked away and giving her the space to bang her hair.
- Plan, plan, plan
I feel like this is a recurring theme for this whole post. It’s not the funnest thing one can imagine when going out for the night and to plan for events that seem so far away and yet to happen.
However, it will be a good night at the end.
Plan what will happen afterward. If you want to eat afterward, scope out what’s good to eat around the club and check it out. I was hungry afterward, so I went to the nearest pizza store and later having to find out one of my favorite pizza was store was just a block down. Now, you may say what is the big deal? Well, the one I favored had better flavours and was a bit cheaper. I don’t know about you but I like tasty food and to save money. The gnawing annoyance is something I would only feel.
My friend and I grabbing mediocre pizzas (meh)
So there it is. My short guide to having a fun night out on the town for married 30+.
Basically, plan the crap out.
Do you have any tips on going out for the night? If so, please share and comment down below!
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