Anyone Scared of Having Babies Out There?

Photo by Manuel Schinner on Unsplash

 

I am in my 30’s and I just hit another birthday and it made me think of my biological clock. Oh, that darn biological clock where I can’t just kick it to the curb.

 

No matter how young I feel or look at times (thank you to various filters), I can’t ignore the fact that my biological clock is ticking.

 

I am at a point where most of my friends who are my age have a kid or two. Not even a baby but a freaken toddler.

 

When I hang out with my mom friends, I smile and nod and ask questions that might help me in the future (even though I will probably forget most of them).

 

I’ve always liked toddlers because they are cute and they are not mine, so they are fun to play with. I’ve rarely thought about having my own kids in the past and even now it is on and off thing. I am sort of waiting for that ‘moment’ when my maternal instinct will kick in and kick my uterus yelling I WANT A BABY HERE!!

 

Those feelings come and goes and they occur more often than before so perhaps that might be seen as a sign. The word might. I am still not totally convinced yet that I still want a baby.

 

My mom friends tell me that I might never be ‘ready’ but that my maternal instinct will kick in once I have a baby. But what if I don’t?

 

Another reason why I am scared of having a baby is that I don’t feel stable in my career. I mean I now have a full-time job and I like it but the pay is not great. So I am thinking of going back to school to do some upgrading on my education; however, that takes time and money.

 

There are also other things I want to pursue such as writing more (I am failing miserably in even producing two posts in a month) and making videos (nonexistent).

 

Because I am not pursuing these things, I feel like the baby plan has to wait until I figure out my life where it took an unexpected path where there are only unknowns, questionable, and doubts. I mean I guess that is part of life and that is the reason why I am even writing this post.

 

These posts are kind of like online journals where I pour my feelings out and hopefully, I will find some clarity while writing them. It is not clarifying at the moment!!

 

I will continue to live on and imagine one day what will it be like having a baby until it’s too late. Yikes!!

 

I don’t even know how to end this post.

Lost

In

Baby

Thoughts.

 

Do you have any advice or tips on what to do with all these ruminating thoughts?

 

Seriously.

 

Thanks for reading up until this point.

 

Until next time,

 

 

Minimalist Min(ie)

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Reviews on the Happiness Planner and Make Things Happen planner

I was stoked during December 2017 to purchase these planners as I was full of hopes and dreams of wanting to achieve everything that I wanted. I had whole lists of to do’s and I thought this was it. 2018 was the year achievements and accomplishments were going to be met. There were so much hopes and buzz around this idea that I decided to purchase two different planners to help motivate myself.

 

I searched around and found a YouTuber that I frequently watched and she mentioned a planner called The Peony Planner; however, the price was quite high. I was trying hard to justify for purchasing it but at the end, I didn’t buy it. I also wanted to purchase using free shipping, but to get free shipping I had to purchase over 100 dollars USD. I even scoured the merchandise section and I even tried to coax my sister to get something with me, but she didn’t budge. I refused to pay for shipping so at the end I didn’t purchase it. (I made the right choice). I was given a gift card to a bookstore during the holidays, so I decided to utilize that and purchased a cheaper version of the planner called The Happiness Planner that was sold on the site. It was also on sale so, at the end with the gift card, it came up to 35 dollars CAD.

 

For Make Things Happen Planner, I have been reading a site called Career Girl Daily blogs receiving personal, career, fashion and makeup tips and got quite good information out of them so when they were heavily promoting their merchandise I got suckered in and purchased one of their planners.  I was close to getting the Getting Things Done planner but because I was getting the Happiness planner and I was planning to use that as my main one, I decided to not to. Their website had discount codes but it still came up to 60 dollars CAD (it was a stupid decision).

 

Nevertheless, here are my thoughts on both of these planners.

 

I am not going into dimensions and what the box entails so for more specs of each planner, check out their websites for detailed information.

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My thoughts on Happiness Planner

  1. First, it came in a box comprised of various knick-knacks such as a pen (it looks fancy with its rose color finish, but the ink is shit) bunch of happiness sheets, clips, and stickers. They became useless because I didn’t use them. However, if I don’t I can probably reuse them for next year by making photocopies.
  2. It comes with an inspiring quote on every page which I have been ignoring due to forgetting to write on that day but that is my own fault.
  3. It has numerous sections of places to write on gratitude, scheduling, what to focus, to-dos and so forth, and I appreciate that.
  4. It is big and heavy (hardcover) to lug around, so I treat it as a journal where I put it near my bedside table and try to write at the end my day. The key word: try Update: I am planning to use it as my daily planner even though it is quite heavy.
  5. I like my planner to be structured as weekly because it is easier to plan my week that way. This planner is daily so when I open the planner I only see two days which disrupts the flow of scheduling.

 

Final thoughts: It is a good concept as it makes the users reflect each day and to write in different categories such as schedule list, to do’s and what I am grateful for etc. I think it was a good buy for this time, because I had the gift card and it was on sale. I will use these different categories for my future journaling, but I will not purchase this specific Happy Planner again. They come in different styles so if they come up with weekly style and a smaller planner size, I might reconsider.

 

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Thoughts on Make Things Happen planner

 

  1. I felt like the website really tried hard to promote their products, and I think I was swept in the bubble and the hype thinking that I would be able to do all my goals and that by buying this planner will help me. Uhhhhhhh…. Nope. I want to tell the readers to really, really think it through before buying this planner.
  2. For what it’s worth I think this was one item where I wasted my money for the year of 2017. No joke.
  3. Again the concept seems great. Every month there are career and personal development goals that go along each month. I mean they are great, and I fall for these kinds of stuff every freaking time, but I feel like I can find these types of goal setting plans ONLINE!!!!!!!! And for FREE!!!!!
  4. Too much grammar and spelling mistakes.
  5. Now that I’ve gone through 4 months, their plans are so generic and full of cliches.

 

I think that’s why I am so upset because the stuff on their planner is the stuff they usually write on their website for free!!!

 

Final thoughts: Not worth it!!! Unless they are on massive sale like 50+% off and if you are a paper and a pen type of person this might do it but….seriously nope. This planner is a monthly planner and the cover and the book looks quite cheap TBH. I mean I paid c$60 even though it included shipping. This planner was also back ordered so I received it in mid-January. By that time, their merchandise went on sale…… And they refused to give me price match which sort of stung me even further.

 

This experience turned me off so much that I almost stopped reading their content online, but I will continue reading as long as they are free. I know they have a planner called Ultimate Blogging planner so have anyone of you have any reviews on that? I would love to know!

 

Anyways here were my reviews/thoughts on these two planners I purchased for the year of 2018. Did any of you purchase an awesome planner? If so please let me know about them!

 

Thank you for reading!

 

Until then

 

 

Minimalist Min(ie)

 

 

Should I Sue or Not?

I am pondering whether I should continue with a lawsuit.

 

On August 27th, 2017 my partner was about to walk our dog Kyuuko who is a corgi pom whom just left the house and I was at the garage at that time and suddenly I heard my partner yell “Nooooo, nooooo!” I ran outside and saw my partner holding our dog and saw the neighbours’ brother holding his dog who was a female Pitbull.

 

The pit bull bit our dog Kyuuko’s leg and he was bleeding. The neighbours (they are a couple and he was the wife’s brother) brother apologized profusely and said he will call his sister whom was the actual neighbour and said he will take care of them. We were bewildered and shaken so we took the contact information and took Kyuuko to the emergency vet.

 

Kyuuko went into surgery and after few hours he was alright. The vet said it was pretty bad but not life-threatening. The bill came up to 1000 dollars.

 

The next day the owner, the wife, called and apologized and said she will take care of the costs and to call her back after it was finalized.

 

We contacted our pet insurance and they covered 60% of it. There was still 40% to cover so my partner told the neighbours they owe us 400 dollars. After a month, there was nothing and another month passed. We asked for the money and the husband finally came and paid 300 and said they will pay the rest later. A couple of weeks passed and nothing. We texted the wife for the money and nothing. We messaged again and now we were in December. The wife finally messaged back and told us they were in financial hardships and how we being unfair, childish and immature that we were being inconsiderate of their situation. She said the whole thing was an accident and we should be thankful that they even paid 300 because they wouldn’t have paid at all. She said they were not going to pay us and that’s that.

 

We were understandably furious and didn’t know what to do. We are not the aggressive types so my partner said to Fuck them and to just let it go. I just couldn’t do that because whenever I saw them I wanted to yell and scream at them but I didn’t. I also chose to ignore them but it didn’t last long.

 

At this point, I want to sue them but the amount is quite low. It’s less than 100 dollars and the legal fees might cost more.

 

I am thinking of going through this process called civil resolution tribunal which helps solve cases that are under 3000 dollars.

 

I was going to consult with a lawyer for 30 mins which is included in my work benefits so I was going to utilize that.

 

However, I am still unsure what to do or how to be when I see the neighbours.

 

Does anyone have any advice, tips or thoughts or had similar experiences in the past?

 

Anyways thank you for hearing my story and take care. I did not want to post pictures of Kyuuko when he was hurt because that makes me upset whenever I see them but I will post him resting after the surgery. 

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Thanks for reading,

 

Until then

 

 

Minimalist Min(nie)

 

Instagram: Iamminimalistmin

Reflections and Goals (17/18)

Happy New Years!

It’s a new year! Fresh start! I want this year to be filled with attainable goals and actually, do them. I want to share what I am reflecting on for 2017 and what I want to be doing for 2018. I am putting myself out there so I will be more accountable for my goals. Also remembering and reflecting what I wrote and thought during these times will help me to keep me on the path this year. Mind you though, these areas are not the ONLY things I am working on but ones I want to focus on shall I say.

CAREER (Work, Volunteering, Education)

I’ve managed to work two jobs (one full time, and one part-time) for a full year in 2017 and I don’t know if it was a smart or a foolish thing to do but I am glad it is coming to an end. It’s bittersweet as well because I have been with the organization for 4 years, but I am ready to take on a new challenge for 2018 by working on my personal projects and to look for other on-call jobs. 

I volunteered for 2017 and it was a great way to meet new people, to learn new skills, and to try something different, but in 2018, I might consider looking for something different within the same organization.

In 2017, I’ve been thinking of pursuing additional education but I was feeling really lost and stuck. Now in 2018, I am thinking of doing more schooling to boost up my career and I am hoping it will work out but I haven’t decided on anything specific yet. Because I am uncertain which paths I should take, I am in the process of meeting professionals who work in the industry through my network to get more information.

CHALLENGES (#myfirsts)

In 2017, I participated Tough Mudder Half and it was something I should have given myself more credit so yeah!! I participated in it!! If you are curious how I did and if you are interested in participating yourself, I wrote a post on what to expect and what to bring to help you to have a smoother run.

In 2018, I would like to search for another training or an activity that I haven’t tried it, yet, so that is my goal for this year. Try something new and different!

FITNESS

In 2017, to help myself and my sister train for the Tough Mudder Half,  we followed the workouts that were recommended by the website. We tried working out any days that were available and because of this, all the time that was available went to the gym. Even though it was great for my fitness, other areas flustered.

In 2018, I decided to workout 4 days a week and avoiding not working out for more than 2 days and to eat healthier to replace not working out more than that.

FOOD

I don’t usually snack but if it’s in front of me, my hands will dip into the bags of chips like no other. I have a couple of favorite candies and sweets that I will go for, and for 2017, I tried really hard not to consume them and I stopped buying them for the most part. Out of sight out of mind. I still can’t say no to some sour candies 😉

For 2018, I’ve decided to consume less meat and dairy, especially, milk to start. It’s been a couple of months so far, even though I have had cravings and urges to consume them, I reminded myself of the reasons why I did it in the first place. I am currently having some health issues, so I am seeing if this diet will make a difference. Again, I am not eliminating 100% because I don’t want to be too hard and to put pressure on myself, but I believe reducing is still better than nothing, so this is what I will stick to it for now.

PROJECTS (BLOG, YOUTUBE)

In 2017,  I blogged at least once a month on average. There were some months I didn’t blog at all, and some months, I posted more than once, so on average, it’s been once a month. For 2018, I want to up the goal by posting twice a month. I know this can be seen as a sub-par goal compared to many of you, but I am focused on having smaller and attainable goals.

In 2017, for YouTube, I’ve partnered up with a co-worker, Alina, to make YouTube videos on fashion, makeup, and other random ideas; however, they flustered, because of our conflicting schedules. But for 2018, our schedules have cleared up (we both don’t have permanent weekend work anymore) we can then focus more on creating videos.

SKILLS

In 2017, I picked up a guitar and coding last year and started practicing, but after a couple of months, my practice time started to dwindle. In 2018, I want to make my practices more of a regular thing and I will practice them once a week and if I can accomplish that, I will increase the frequency.

PLANNER

I’ve always used a planner to put in appointments and important notes but in  2018, I will look at the planner and assess it every week. I will be more meticulous about recording especially with my spending, and my eating, although I find meal planning is a bit tough.

Anyways, I’ve purchased two planners, “The Happiness Planner” and “Making it Happen” ( I am gettin real serious here) but I still haven’t received them. When I do, and if I like it, I will make a review. Please leave a comment down below if you are interested. I will also be more meticulous about writing my spending.

WELLNESS TOOLS (Meditation, Journaling, and something FUN)

In 2017, I’ve started to meditate using this free app. and I have been doing it almost everyday. It’s free and there are a lot of different types such as guided or music, so I highly recommend. In 2018, I will continue using this app and to continue to meditate in the morning and at night. I recommend to people who have a hard time sleeping and if you like to hear something soothing or white noise to drift you off to sleep, this app will work wonders.  Well, it works for me.

I journaled once a month on average (I am being completely honest here!!) but in 2018, I will journal at least once a week.

For fun, I want to continue to travel and to look for fun and exciting activities to do this year! I went to a play with my family last year and that was super fun. Trying and enjoying new experiences are one of my top goals this year so I will continue to look for it. TO LIVE WITH INTENTIONS!!!!

 

So these are my big but humble goals for this year so far. Things may change and I will be ready to be flexible to those changes but at least something is there.

 

Also, there is so many self-help and wellness tools and tips out there in the blogosphere, I am going to try them and to write my experiences down for review. If interested, please leave a comment down below.

 

I haven’t done a make up post in a while so I will be coming up with a review of a lip product which I used it everyday for a whole month in December 2017.

 

Please let me know what you intend to do or what your goals for the year 2018?

 

Hope everyone had a great holiday and happy new year again!

 

Thanks for reading!

 

Until then,

 

Minimalist Min(ie)

 

Credit: Photo by Matthew Sleeper on Unsplash 

Yearning for a simple life

Do you have those moments when you want the time to go slowly and everything around you to go slowly as well? Second by second, minute by minute?

 

I am currently obsessed with this Australian prison show called the “Wentworth” and it is about women prisoners who navigate prison systems, friendships, relationships and various obstacles that come to their ways. The show gives me tears, knee-jerking and shocking moments all from the prison setting. I cannot rave more about this show and I cannot wait for the next season!

 

I was binge-watching the show one day and there was a scene where one of the character, Franky, was throwing a tennis ball against the wall and I don’t know what it was, but that scene made me yearn for a simple life. I mean in the show Franky was plotting a scheme so I am sure her thoughts were perplexed as she was throwing that ball. But just seeing her throw that ball against the wall back and forth and back and forth sort of soothed me and mesmerized me at the same time.

 

There are other scenes where the prisoners rest around their unit lounge after their work chores are over and those scenes brought peace to me as well. Those prisoners are stuck and they have limited freedom but the fact that they didn’t have to deal with all the “outside everyday chaos” seemed to calm me.

 

I sound like I live and work in a high pressure, corporate environment where I work and deal with stock exchange etc and I am not. I work in social services where I deal with complex and dire situations but I like my job and the work environment, so why the feeling?

 

I am not even sure but I heard there is a movement called the Slow TV from one of the Nordic countries where they broadcast ordinary events that occur in real time on TV. It’s a reversal to all the mega explosive and overstimulating things that are shown on TV shows and films nowadays. I don’t want to lie but I caught myself a couple of times just looking glassy-eyed at my laundry machine going around in a rhythmic cycle. Something about it was soothing but I stopped myself and got up after a few minutes before I got too entrenched.

 

As I am writing this post, I realized I have been working at my current job for a year and it has been my first full-time job in a field that I actually care about. I’ve always worked full-time hours in the past but they were either in a job where I didn’t give a crap about or few part-time jobs that added to full-time hours.

 

Nevertheless, at this point, I want to do so many things and maybe that’s just it. I want to do so much that I feel stuck and not sure where to go from here.

 

As I have mentioned in my previous post, I am at a point where I feel stuck especially in my career and somewhere inside me is yearning for a simple life. I think I am ruminating and looking for something to focus.

 

I work all week which include my full-time job during the week and a part-time job on the weekends. Now, that weekend gig will end in a month and I will have my weekends back, and it is going to be so weird. I have been working like this for a year but I’ve been working on weekends part time for 4 years and I am worried and excited at the same time to see what my weekends will be like once I am done.

I am all over the place but I am hoping something will come to me as I write posts like these.

 

If you ever felt stuck in the past and got unstuck in any category in your life, please leave a comment down below as I still have much to learn.

 

Thanks for reading this post that is all over the place.

 

Until then

 

 

Minimalist Min(ie)

Career in Question

This is a post about me feeling lost and scared about work and career path that I am on now, but despite these thoughts, I feel compelled to continue. Every year I assess my situation, whether in work, relationships and in general just where I am at. These are all pretty obvious things but this is what I am doing and considering at the moment with work and my life the moment. I wanted to share the struggles and what makes me feel motivated, by the way, is still a constant struggle, but that is for another time.

 

  1. Keep going.

 

To realize if I enjoy the work and still have something to learn is to keep going.

 

I am still fairly new in my field (social services) because I was in a different industry (finance and retail service) in the past. I have been in this full-time job for just a year, so I still need more time and experience to figure what I want.

 

Hopefully, as I continue to work in my field I will eventually realize I do enjoy the work and that I do find it rewarding and to keep going until I find something different.

2. Be realistic

 

I do feel lost at times and my thoughts would creep into other fields wondering what it would be like and they would range all the way from all sorts of areas such as engineering, accounting, medicine, pharmacy etc. When this happens, it is not beneficial to ruminate and to ponder what it will be like to work in those fields, because I will get stuck in spirals and spin out of control.

 

Instead, be realistic.

 

Let’s say if I was considering to become a doctor at this time, it will take me 10 or more years of schooling to become a doctor. I would also have to calculate the time and the money that will cost me to become a doctor. I am being realistic and if I think I am not ready to put all that work, then no matter what I think of the profession, I don’t think that is the right path for me.

 

  1. Try different jobs

 

If I am feeling stuck or feeling unsure, I will apply for a different job and become a casual or a part-time worker to see how I will do or like in those jobs.

 

I know I am the type that cannot be stuck in one type of job because I will feel bored and I need to be in a different element to feel motivated.

I try to seek for different kinds of work such as what I am doing now such as writing, sharing my experiences, reviewing makeup and so on. This gives me a break from my day job and I feel I will not get burnt out from my current job.

 

When I look back, this is what I always did by having a variety of jobs working in different sectors. All in all, they would all be in customer service, but I remember working as a cashier or a sales associate at different places and it worked out well for me. Maybe because of that experience, I got used to working in multiple jobs and I liked the fact that I got to have a variety of experiences and to meet different kinds of people.

 

I live in Vancouver and now it seems like working two or more jobs is somewhat normal to make ends meet to live in this city. And I am not talking about people who have good stable jobs and having a side hustle to make extra income. I am talking about people who have a stable job but having to work at another part-time job after their day job to make ends meet.

 

  1. Volunteer

 

If you are curious about what it’s like working in another industry, try volunteering. It will have less pressure than having an actual job and it will still give you good insights what will it be like working with the people who are working in that sector.

 

I also volunteer about once a month and that works for me with my current work schedule. I was interested in working in the justice system so I volunteer to do car patrols for my local RCMP community and so far it has been well.

 

  1. Education

 

I am also looking to do further education and I actually feel lost in this path as well. There are so many schools, so many programs, and all their distinctive requirements is making my head hurt. The time and the money that will cost is no easy feat as well. I am currently trying to get information from various programs and what I can do with them afterward such as career paths etc.

 

I don’t have much else to say other than to keep going and something eventually will turn up. It will be more productive rather than being stuck and not doing anything and trying to ponder for the perfect job or that one career path.

 

It will not show up if we don’t do anything. Everything will be stuck and nothing will turn up.

 

So this is what I am working on now when I am questioning my future career path.

 

Does anybody feel this way and if so what helped you past the feeling of stuckness in your career? Please leave a comment down below and I would like to read what helped you.

 

Thanks for reading.

 

Until then

Minimalist Min(ie)

Instagram: iamminimalistmin

 

5 Tips for Clubbing for Married 30+

So Yup. I went clubbing… And not just attending a DJ event or a concert but clubbing as in going to a regular club, and lining up outside with other clubgoers while they were smoking and drinking.

So it started out as one of my married friends said “let’s do a girls night out!” and so another married friend joined and we decided on… Well, what else? Clubbing, of course!

At the end, the night was memorable but not in the best sense. We all went through the party scene when we were 20 something but as married 30+ it was a different story.

There were a lot of recurring memories and events that emerged from the past but we were simply not ready for what was bound to happen. We were stunned like a deer before it got stuck. (ugh… I don’t like that example… I get sad when I see road kills)

Anyways even though you may be younger or older than 30+ hopefully this can be a guide to all of you guys before heading out for the night. Hopefully, it can save you money (I am all for that), time and stress.

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Me and my friend clubbing (gasp!!)

 

  1. How to Avoid Line-Ups

 

a) Plan your destination

This may sound basic for some of you folks, but we had no plan! We just decided on a  club while driving and heading out to downtown. The first couple of clubs we picked (got the information on the internet ><) were closed down or not a night we wanted to attend, so we asked around and received recommendations and so we went.

If we had picked a club to go to, in the beginning, we could have contacted the club earlier in the week to get on the guest list and save time on lining up and maybe perhaps the cover fee.

b) Use your or friends’ connections

We didn’t want to resort to this but especially in the colder months, we would try to see if we have any connections with the promoters or know who knows one so we can get in the club with little to no lineups.

c) Or be a keener and head to the club early to avoid long lineups!

If the club opens at 8pm, get there around 8pm to avoid line ups! You will still listen to some great music, get drinks, dance a bit and maybe call it a night!

 

  1. How to save money on drinks

a) Pre-drink

This is kind of an obvious thing, but yes pre-drink or pre-game before you head to the club. Obviously, do not get so drunk that you stumble everywhere and puke before you head in (we kinda broke that rule ourselves but one of our friends was lightweight in drinking!). I remember back in my 20’s, we used to pre-drink at friends’ homes or even in cars! I remember I used to carry a bottle of drink in the back of the trunk in case someone wanted a drink.

Now, we might still pre-drink at friend’s home or drink at a bar or restaurants, but do remember! Drinks at bars and restaurants might be as expensive as in clubs so do calculate your costs as you go.

b) Research for drinks’ specials for that night

Check out what the drinks’ specials are when searching for the club(that is if you already picked a place!) so when you are ordering at the bar you know what to order. Also, ask for the price before you order! When I went to the club that night, I didn’t ask for the price and the drink turned out to be 20 dollars a shot! I think I got ripped but the drinks were already poured and I did not want to make a scene and get kicked out so I coughed up the dough. It woke me right after that.

C) Just don’t drink!

Save money and your health by not drinking and just getting thumpin with the music!! If you absolutely need drinks, read the options above but just don’t seduce and tempt guys to get a drink. You are independant woman and who knows what’s inside the drinks? Get drinks for you and your friends and they can get the next round and so on.

 

  1. Comfort is everything

When I was in my 20s comfort was the last thing on my mind. I just had to look hot or sexy and that was it. Oh and also cheap. I remember I would wear a short dress with no jacket in winter because I wanted to save money on coat check.

I would wear heels like no other and would rather bring band-aids with me to cover up my wounds because I would rather have sexy legs than worry about the pain and blisters that would incur later.

Now, comfort is everything! I am not at that stage where I would forego style over comfort but it’s getting close. I would rather wear comfortable, somewhat stylish shoes rather than sexy heels. I know my feet, and legs and let’s face it, my whole body would thank me as soon I walk into the club.

Showing off my B&B (accidentally) and B&B stands for Boobs and Butt and vice versa is not what I want to show off due to tripping over because of some gnarly shoes.

Wear something you would feel comfortable in for your whole body, from head to toe and they will all thank you.

 

  1. Avoid unnecessary conflicts

Back in the days, if someone bumps or elbows into you (on purpose) and you just want to smash them into pieces and you actually do it?

Well, think twice before you do that especially at this age. I am guessing you might have a job and maybe a family and some sort of a reputation (if you are in a gang, this might not apply to you or maybe it does) you would not want to risk all of that just from that one night, one person.

People are drunk and it is crowded with people, so give them the benefit of the doubt. If you are near people who are too rowdy, just walk away. Sometimes, it is just not worth it.

That night, I had this girl dancing near us flailing her hair and she was getting closer to us and we “gently” nudged her away but she came in full force shaking her hair like no other and so we just walked away and giving her the space to bang her hair.

 

  1. Plan, plan, plan

I feel like this is a recurring theme for this whole post. It’s not the funnest thing one can imagine when going out for the night and to plan for events that seem so far away and yet to happen.

However, it will be a good night at the end.

Plan what will happen afterward. If you want to eat afterward, scope out what’s good to eat around the club and check it out. I was hungry afterward, so I went to the nearest pizza store and later having to find out one of my favorite pizza was store was just a block down. Now, you may say what is the big deal? Well, the one I favored had better flavours and was a bit cheaper. I don’t know about you but I like tasty food and to save money. The gnawing annoyance is something I would only feel.

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My friend and I grabbing mediocre pizzas (meh)

So there it is. My short guide to having a fun night out on the town for married 30+.

 

Basically, plan the crap out.

 

Do you have any tips on going out for the night? If so, please share and comment down below!

 

Thanks for reading!

 

Until then

 

 

Minimalist Minnie

 

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